- Teachings and Theological Elements:
-> Mrs. Pearl teaches submission to your husband, even when it's hard and when it seems like he's making a wrong decision. She says instead of trying to change him, give it to God and let Him do a mighty work in your husband. There is a lot of other things, but in every element Mrs. Pearl talks about, she backs it up, I find, correctly with scripture.
2. Disputes and Disagreements:
-> Many women have said that they were "put off" of this book because of Mrs. Pearl's style of writing. I beg you to reconsider. I will warn you that you may be offended as Mrs. Pearl can be rather blunt, and at times she does resort to some rude names. I have never met this woman in person, but though I do agree that some of her writing does not become a lady, there is a lot of it that is tender and sincerely heart-felt. I just ignored what I felt was disagreeable, and learned what I could from her teachings.
-> Submission and Reverence in the face of Physical and Emotional Abuse: This is something I do not agree with. Though Mrs. Pearl (and her husband) have stated that the wife and children should be protected in a case of an abuser, they support the idea of staying and waiting it out, saying that reverence and obedience will change the man. I strongly disagree, as I myself have been in an abusive family till age 18. Obedience and honour do nothing to pacify or change a person, it is a problem within themselves that no one from the outside can help with by submission. This is a dangerous teaching, and it could be fatal. I would say that it is not expounded on much, and I would accept her teachings except for this one. An abusive situation is incredibly dangerous to a person physically, mentally, and emotionally. It should not be accepted or appeased by submission and reverence.
However, in the rest of the book Mrs. Pearl showed a lot of wisdom in her teachings, and much of it I'm sure came from her own experience- over 30 years of marriage! I would recommend her book to new wives especially, but given with a word of caution if they are in an abusive situation.